I didn’t think that I would ever write a blog about suicide, but because of some recent events and news stories that covered some recent suicides in Utah, I decided I have something to say and now is the time for me to say it.
Suicide is not the solution to problems you don’t want to face!
It may seem like an easy solution, but it isn’t the correct one.
Life at times may seem hard, may seem unfair, or may seem pointless. Sometime we are upset because things don’t work out how we want them to, or plan them to, and it seems all too easy to just give up and quit.
I know. I have felt that way before. Have I contemplated killing myself because things weren’t going the way I wanted them to? No. I have made rash comments to that end, but I never have seriously considered it. I am too much of a coward to do so. Plus, I know the pain that is felt by those left behind. I couldn’t do that to anyone.
Unfortunately we see it happening, and it seems to be happening more and more.
In the last two weeks, there have been two different news stories broadcast on a local television station talking about suicide among teenagers. At one particular high school, two different teenagers committed suicide within two days of each other. Two months ago another student at a different high school decided to take his life. Two weeks ago one of my son’s friends in the neighborhood tried as well. He was unsuccessful. I am glad he is still around.
Why is suicide such an easy solution?
In one of the news stories on t.v., a 17 year-old who was friends with one of the teens who took his own life was talking with the reporter about the incident. He is quoted as saying; “This is one bump on the way to where you’re going. You’re going to go somewhere far beyond these minor emotions that feel big now but are so small in your lifetime.”
How do we get people to realize this? How do we get them to get past those feelings of desperation?
My home state of Utah ranks number one in terms of residents contemplating suicide. Utah has the eighth highest rate of suicide among adults in the nation and it is the second leading cause of death for Utahns between the ages of 15-19.
As a side note, Utah is a great place to live. Don’t let these numbers make you think otherwise.
Communities in Utah are working to prevent this from happening any more. Will they succeed? I hope so. Will there still be people that contemplate suicide? Yes. Will there still be people that attempt it? Yes. Will some of them succeed? Unfortunately, yes.
If you know someone that may be at risk, help them. Do what you can. Especially if they are close to you. You don’t want to have them succeed, because if they do, you will wonder if you could have helped them, if you could have done something to prevent it.
I know. There are days that I wonder about it.
It has been almost three years since my brother took his life. Some days I wish I could have done something. I know there wasn’t really anything I could do. He needed to get help for himself. But could I have helped him along? Was there help that he would have accepted if it had only been offered?
You may someday ask yourself the same question. Know that you can help. There are crisis hotlines, suicide hotlines, counselors, friends, family…there is help. Get your loved ones the help they need.
Suicide is never the answer, never the solution to a problem. Suicide is the ultimate form of giving up. If anyone contemplating it can realize how much better their life will be if they don’t do it, they won’t. But that is the problem…they don’t realize it. They are to a depressive state that is beyond being able to rationalize their actions.
That is why I wish I could have helped. My brother needed to learn that he could overcome the issues he was facing. My son’s friend did too. At least he has the chance to learn it now. Those that are successful don’t. That is why I am glad there are resources available. You and I can help. We need to learn how. We can’t be afraid to.
Nobody needs to feel the hurt that my brother’s kids, or anyone else in my family has felt because of his decision. I hope you never have the opportunity to say that you understand what I mean.
Just another view from a Palmtree.